How to Stop Being Wishy Washy and Start Feeling Confident - Heart Triad
Have you ever wished you could be confident in a new environment?
In what you’re doing for work?
In the plan for your life?
In Episode #81 of the Living Enneagram Podcast, I tell you exactly what the practical steps are that will help you become confident based on your Enneagram type - but we’re only covering three types to start off with. The heart triad! If your number is not in the heart triad, these are still great tips to help you.
The heart triad is those Enneagram numbers with big emotions and feelings - Type 2, Type 3, and Type 4! People’s opinions can really get to us - especially for these Enneagram types specifically. You can probably think of a time where you made a decision in life and someone disagreed with you - and it made you question yourself. This can really crush your confidence.
In the heart triad, it can be really hard for us to move past our emotions. When people don’t agree with us, it’s a challenge to choose to push through that, but let me tell you it is possible!
Here are the practical steps that the heart triad Enneagram types can take to combat this:
1. Writing about the person who God is calling you to be can help you feel confident.
Something that helped me pursue my blog and entrepreneurial career was writing down and talking to God about these goals. I wrote down how I would make money, the products I would offer, I painted a vision of what it would look like.
For those of us in the heart triad, we have to feed ourselves truth so that we can push past the voices of others. You have to be SO focused on where He is calling you so that this consumes your mind, rather than other people and their opinions.
Who has God called you to be? What is His vision for your life?
2. Surround yourself with friends and people who are helping you toward your goals builds confidence.
In relationships, we need to surround ourselves with those who support our vision and missions. They should be those who help us toward our purpose, not detract us from them.
If God has called you to steward your finances better and save and build wealth so you can give more, you should be putting yourself around people who encourage you to do this. Anyone weighing you down from your goal, whatever it may be, is toxic and not God-honoring. God designed relationships so that we can pour into each other.
If you take one thing away from this episode today, let it be this:
You CAN be confident and overcome this people-pleasing desire and fully step into the plan that God has for you.
Here is some scripture for you, because Jesus models this so perfectly for all of us in the heart triad to push through and experience freedom:
1 Peter 2:22-24 “He committed no sin,and no deceit was found in his mouth.When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.”
Jesus was accused of all these different things he didn’t do, yet he knew so clearly what his mission was. He was able to live in a consistent way because he listened to the voice of God above all else.
Are you someone who struggles with people pleasing? Comment below and let me know how this has helped or encouraged you!
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