Did You Know This About Unhealthy Enneagram Type 7s?
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What if I told you that being optimistic and having fun isn't always a good thing? This is an Enneagram Type 7 in a nutshell - which is not a bad thing. It's a gift. As humans celebrate being positive, and people who always seem to have it together. But this can actually be extremely dangerous, especially for Enneagram Type 7s.
Let's look at some scripture. Proverbs 24:16 says
“for though the righteous man falls seven times, he will rise again. But the wicked stumble when calamity strikes them.”
This verse sticks out to me because it's saying that even when you are walking in righteousness, you're going to fall. You're still going to stumble. But the thing is, that person can get back up.
I think oftentimes, it's easy in our human nature to think that someone who's thriving and living for Jesus just has it all together and they don't mess up. This is the appearance many Type 7s want to keep up. That is the furthest thing from the truth.
Those who mess up in our living and righteousness can get back up because our eyes are on Jesus and the cross rather than their mistakes or their circumstances.
I bring this up in connection with the Enneagram Type 7s because when they're unhealthy, they often feel like they can't have anything go wrong, and when they do, they cover it up with optimism. But here is what I want to share with you, my Type 7 friends, here and in Episode #87 of the Living Enneagram Podcast:
You don't always have to be optimistic. You don't always have to have it together. It's okay to struggle. But it's how you handle that struggle that matters.
First, let’s dive deeper into some common unhealthy patterns we typically see in Type 7s:
- Arrogance and stubbornness. In our flesh, every single human battles with pride, but we see this with unhealthy Enneagram Type 7s because they don’t like having restrictions put on them. The second someone says not to do something, they want to do it. This gets in the way of growth
- They’re never satisfied. Picture a cup, and at the bottom there is a hole. You’re constantly pouring into it, but everything leaks out. Type 7s don't want to miss out, but no matter how much they fill their schedules, it’s never enough. This is also why we see Type 7s tend to battle more with addiction. Because they want satisfaction, they have the “go hard or go home” mentality. The tendencies of going to the extreme can get them into deep waters when it comes to addiction.
- Struggle to be present. This is rooted in again, having fun and opportunity at all times. They often don’t realize how they’re not actually present because having fun and always being on the go doesn’t allow for it. They’re being robbed of hearing what God has for them - direction, clarity, whispers, and what’s really going on inside of them.
And now, let’s look at how the Enneagram Type 7 can move forward with these three steps:
Step 1: Choose what you want most over what you want now.
When Type 7s do this, it can help them become more grounded in their life, but this takes a long term game plan and vision to achieve. Sometimes what sounds good in the moment doesn’t always support the life you want to build. We have to start overriding our emotions - like the arrogance and stubbornness - to get there.
Step 2: Realize that satisfaction comes from Christ.
And this cannot happen unless you’re constantly spending time with Him. This can be through prayer, getting involved in community, worshiping, or journaling.
Meeting with God can look so many different ways, but meditating on the Word is so important for all of us. Knowing the truth through His Word is what sets us free. As Christians, we believe and know this is the only way to truly feel satisfied.
Step 3: Plan intentional time to rest.
Make time to meet with God and yourself to think. I talked about the Sabbath several times and how important it is - especially for Type 7s who have high energy and a hard time slowing down.
But this keeps us from the blessing God is trying to give use through rest: Speaking to us, clarity in our lives. If we don’t plan it though, it’s not going to happen. Treat this like you’re hanging out with a friend, because you are. Jesus is the greatest friend we could ever have.
When you fill up your cup with Him, you can be a light to people without feeling dissatisfied. But it starts at the foot of the cross.
Learning to die to ourselves is one of the most rewarding experiences because the Holy Spirit is coming in us and overriding our flesh so we can walk in freedom.
If you’re an Enneagram Type 7, let me know what you resonate with from this post in the comments!
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